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Why is she handling Li with kid gloves but had a whole lot of mouth for Shiela. Finn was her husband and she has more rights to him than his mother and why isnt she demanding more answers from Li and being furious. Even taylor should be calling up Li as a mother of Steffy and seeing wth is going on if she wasnt so tied to Ridge whereabouts.
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Li is quite a different subject then Sheila. Sheila murdered Finn and shot Steffy. I believe Sheila deserves MUCH more than a few mouthy remarks.
I think she is desperately trying to connect with Li and be sensitive to her. But it is frustrating to Steffy and Taylor... how standoffish and cryptic she is.
If Steffy OR Taylor had words with Li, they would be trashed ENDLESSLY for not being sensitive and called selfish.
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Shiela def. deserved mouthy remarks, im not dismissing that but Li has no right to keep Finns wife out of the loot and Steffy not say anything. She has right to know where he husband is as his wife she has rights to him. -
Oh I totally agree with you. It is very VERY wrong of Li not to at least tell Steffy. Especially now that Sheila is in jail.
Obviously Steffy could be instrumental in bringing Finn back.
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I agree Sopranojenn . I don't fault Steffy here and she is being very careful with Li as she understands she is hurting as well. It seems that no matter what, Steffy loses.Comment
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Steffy is trying to respect the grieving process of Finn’s mother. She’s being a lot more patient than I would be.Comment
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I've been wondering myself. Just Li's body language and cutting looks would have me very suspicious. Steffy needs to get serious with her about Finn's ashes. Enough time has passed by to know what in the heck is going on with Finn's ashes. I certainly would not have this much patience with Li!!Comment
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Finn's gone. What good would it do Steffy to become adversaries with Hayes's grandmother?
Sheila took Steffy's mother from her for a large part of Steffy's childhood that's completely different than Li taking Finn's ashes.
Steffy probably believes Li's grief is temporary and when they've both gone through the grieving process she wants to come out the other end as friends. There will be plenty of time for Steffy to take possession of fins ashes or visit the site where Finn's ashes have been spread.Comment
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Thank you for posting this. You saved me a lot of typing. LOL
Personally, I don't understand the fixation with having someone's ashes. If they made their wishes known before their death, i would certainly carry them out (spreading them in the ocean or on a mountaintop, etc.). But making a big deal about it with the deceased's parent for no good reason? Nope. I would let the person who wanted them the most have them.
Before anyone asks, this has already been discussed in our family. My husband's ashes will be divided among his three kids. I'm not sure what they plan to do with them and I really don't want to know. LOL
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As Finn's next of kin, Steffy has legal rights to his remains.
I don't know why Steffy doesn't insist on Li giving her the cremains. She could offer to give some to Li, but Steffy then Hayes are his next of kin, not Li.
I'm really shocked that Steffy doesn't have a memorial service. If she can travel to Europe, she can do that.Comment
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I'm guessing Steffy is smart enough to know she has the legal rights to Finn's ashes. Obviously she's willing to sacrifice her own needs for Li's at least for now. That's one of the beautiful things about Steffy, her selflessness, putting others before herself. It's a trait rarely seen in the Logans.
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That's right Steffy sure does. This is terrible that weeks and weeks have gone by and they haven't even had a memorial service for Finn. We know he's alive now, but they sure have pussyfooted around. Just very disrespectful in my opinion and you're exactly right. If Miss Priss can jet off to Europe or wherever she should have had a memorial service by now. It's a disgrace where I'm from. I'm not convinced that it's respect for Li, but a selfishness/lack of respect/laziness by, not only Steffy, but Ridge and Taylor also. They should have been encouraging Steffy to handle this without or without Li's help. If she was so "in love" with Finn, it seems to me she would have taken care of this or had it taken care of by her parents. They are there for her with every whim she has it seems. This kind of thing is no picnic for anyone. People are so soft these days. They can't handle what they need to, always thinking of themselves. I get tired of seeing that, it's hard to watch. Thank goodness Finn is alive and we won't have to watch this nonsense much longer.Originally posted by bluejazz View PostLast edited by prpnc; June 1, 2022, 12:55 PM.Comment
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Question for all of you saying Steffy should be insisting. When Li continues to refuse what would you have Steffy do exactly? Take her to court? Fistfight her? Seriously, this seems like bashing for the sake of bashing. She could have a memorial service without his parents I guess. But maybe she thinks it best to allow them the time to come to terms with what happened and be a part of the service.Comment
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Nutty, that Steffy is going on a trip instead of dealing with her husband’s remains bothers me in a visceral way. In my religious and cultural tradition, someone sits with the body until the burial and they are laid to rest within 24 hours if possible.
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bluejazz perhaps Steffy's religious beliefs aren't the same as yours. Are we permitted to discuss religion on a message board?
Many people choose not to have a memorial service. Steffy didn't say she's never having one. Just not yet not until Li is ready.
Steffy seems fine with her choices. She knows her husband better than anyone so I'm guessing she believes Finn would be fine with her choices too.
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I know the character Steffy is not the same religion as I am, which is not represented on soaps.
But of all the people no matter what their religion I've known whose husbands died, they were not lackadaisical about the remains of their loved one. That seems very off, especially with her saying she wants closure.
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Steffy and Li really don't know each other, and most of their interactions have involved highly emotional drama - Sheila's appearance at the wedding, learning that Jack had cheated on Li with Sheila, and the two brief visits at Steffy's home in which Li was extremely abrupt. While Steffy has legal rights, it's understandable to me that she doesn't want to antagonize or alienate Li who, she believes, is struggling with her own sense of loss. As far as we know, Li and Jack haven't reconciled, so Li, seemingly, is totally alone in her grief.
While it seems odd to Steffy to not have a service to give her closure, she may simply want to give Li more time before pushing her to participate in one. It really isn't uncommon for a memorial service to be held weeks after a death, and, until Steffy showed up for work, she hasn't been physically or emotionally ready to plan one until now.Comment
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I can see Li dumping a flower pot in an urn and saying here he is.Originally posted by vdw842003 View Post
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LOL! I can see her doing that too! Honestly, as much as I like Li, what she is doing is wrong. But it's a soap so anything goes.Originally posted by JJ1 View Post
I can see Li dumping a flower pot in an urn and saying here he is.Comment
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Well, yes, Steffy has asked Li as gently as possible many times where are Finn's remains? but Li shot her down, wouldn't speak of it, and Steffy didn't push it. l am counting on her to go to Li and get a STRAIGHT answer no more tenderness. Steffy is suffering unlike Li because she KNOWS her son is alive unlike Steffy and to keep that from her, l'm sorry, but that doesn't make her ANY different than Sheila, like her, only wanting to own, posses Finn because he is HER son. lf Li doesn't tell Steffy soon she'll end up real quick on my hit list.Comment
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Li is trying to give Finn life. Sheila took Finn's life. Sheila is a criminally insane psychopathic murderer. Li is a doctor a healer.There's a huge difference between Li and Sheila.
Does Steffy have the right to know Finn is alive of course she does but according to modern medicine Finn is not alive, he is legally dead with no hope of coming out of this coma.
Li hopes and prays they are wrong but she's afraid if she lets anyone know they will take Finn from her and redeclare him legally dead.
With all the blows Li's been dealt lately she can't be certain Steffy wouldn't rather be with Liam. She wants to believe Steffy is worthy but she just can't take that chance not right now, not at this pivotal moment.
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As pointed out Steffy knows she has legal rights she’s not pushing Li for a number of reasons . She understands Li’s loss , she herself can probably only handle so much at once right now, she knows there is something off about Li but she’s giving her room and walking on eggshells. As for a memorial service she asked Li about that and Li shut her down. I’m sure Steffy doesn’t want to have one without Li’s approval. I am Steffy would be criticized if she was pushing Li more.
How she reacts when she finds out Finn’s alive is hard to predict especially given that Li could have told them sooner and how Li is towards Steffy once it comes out.Comment
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Since when have Li’ feelings mattered to Steffy and family? Taylor brought Sheila further into the family and kept going on about her grief as Finn’s mother and Hayes’ grandmother and Steffy never said boo. To me, the two of them seemed to work to downplay Li as Finn’s real mother. -
Steffy said Li was his mother not so much Shelia. Again Steffy gets bashed for being mean to Shelia while Taylor is bashed for being nice to her .
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Taylor pushed that narrative to her detriment but Steffy didn't fight her on it.
I really dislike this Taylor and her glaring ignoring of Li as Finn's real mother to push Sheila as the parent and grandparent when she historically bought a trafficked baby for her own daughter to adopt, well, she seems really off kilter.
And Steffy could have stopped Taylor in her tracks. Why she coddles and listens to this bizarre woman who has caused so much harm to her baffles me.
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It's getting ridiculous that Steffy doesn't even care if she can see Finn's ashes or not, or even the body before he "was cremated". She's the wife and has the ultimate authority, Li's mother has no authority to ask for the cremation without Steffy's consent. How about Finn's estate business? Everyone knows when someone dies, his/her closest family member needs to take care of the deceased's estate business. It's crazy that your husband died, and you just ran away without taking care of any of his businesses.Originally posted by vdw842003 View Post
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Good point re estate and Taxes. I had to set up an estate account and pay all expenses for probate, ect out of that. And estate taxes are due within a certain amount of time and it's not a super long time frame.
This is not Steffy being strong and taking care of necessary duties and business. I know it's due to her maternity leave but why write the character in such a weak way. If she can go to Europe, she can take care of necessary business first.
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